it’s really happening (baby #2)

Alright, at 21 weeks and halfway through this thing. In a couple of months we’ll be knee deep in diaper changes, late night feedings and being parents of a newborn again. I’m wrapping my head around the logistics of bringing another baby into the world, and as I hang out with my little one and rock her to sleep while my obvious pregnant belly is getting bigger and bigger, I’m reminded to savor those precious moments of us as a twosome.

Here’s how I’m doing this time around:

1. How big is the baby?

Baby is the size of baseball hat or a baby bok choy. He’s super active and kicking all the time. I’m carrying this baby differently this time around which the doctor has blamed gender and stretched uterus, go figure. 

2. Foods I Love…

Pickles! Cliche as all hell, but I’ve sent Justin on a run for pickles now, and I HATE pickles. Never eat them when they come with sandwiches, always pick them off burgers, but with this pregnancy I want them so bad. Truffles are also a win- but I don’t know if I would blame that on pregnancy…

3. Foods I Hate…

Super heavy food and seafood. It’s just too much and I feel like I have to walk around and help everything move and it’s just not worth it. I’m eating more than with Olivia, which is awesome, but there is quite a bit of maintenance and supervision that has to be done so I don’t feel like shit. 

4. How I’m Feeling…

While I think this pregnancy is going better than my first, I’m getting all sorts of new discomforts like round ligament pain and back pain. Maybe it’s because I’m carrying him differently, my placenta is in a good spot this time around and baby boy is super active, who knows. I think my body just got its shit together this time around, but I feel better. First trimester was a bitch, and I don’t wish that on anyone, so I’m happy to be in second trimester (although I wouldn’t call it bliss). 

5. Looking Forward To…

Keeping on, keeping on. Feeling OK, celebrating with friends and family to help welcome this new baby, the joy of giving Olivia a sibling and becoming a family of four. Our ultrasound was great and everything seems to be progressing the way that it should. 

6. Scared About…

The probability of developing preeclampsia again with this pregnancy. I am reading that there is a 20-30% chance of it happening again just because of the severity of the last one (HELLP syndrome). I’m checking my blood pressure everyday and monitoring my symptoms closely. Hopefully since I know what to look for, I”ll be better prepared to handle it if it happens again. 

7. Things I’ve Learned…

Give into the cravings- why the hell not? Walking is also good for everyone involved including Olivia and Mya. I’ve also learned that although my bond with Olivia is so super strong, I’m happy that we are giving her a sibling to partner through life. I was listening to a podcast by Jeff Kluger who wrote a book called The Sibling Effect. At the end of his speech, he says that siblings “give each other a sense of constancy, a sense of having a permanent traveling companion and somebody with whom they road tested life with before they ever had to get out and travel it on their own. They are among the richest harvests that life has to offer.” I know with the closeness that my sisters and I share, I feel so grateful my parents decided to do that for me. 

It’s really happening (baby #2)

baby#2

Alright, at 16 weeks I’m officially in my second trimester. While I’m grateful to all the gods that be that I’m not puking 2-3 times a day anymore, I have to say that the thing I notice the most is that I’m SO. TIRED. Like all day. I don’t remember this from when I was pregnant for Olivia, but then I think back at that time and I was able to take a nap on demand and get up as late as I wanted to. Ahhh the experience of being pregnant with a toddler 🙂

Here’s how I’m doing this time around:

1. How big is the baby?

Baby is the size of an action hero. Since we are having a boy, I’m using the “fun and games” theme to make tracking how big baby is a bit more fun. My app shows an action figure of Batman, which Justin finds very amusing. 

2. Foods I Love…

Cheese. It’s officially a craving. I want grilled cheese, queso (need to make a trip back home and hit up Pappasitos soon), and string cheese. At this point I’ll even have a spoonful of shredded cheese. They say having a boy makes you crave salty foods. I suppose cheese fits in that category, although I also crave chocolate…  

3. Foods I Hate…

Red meat, seafood (just like with Olivia) and salads. Although a salad sounds fantastic, the leafy greens make my acid reflux flare up and that lump in my throat is here for the second time, so I’m avoiding anything that is grainy or small. 

4. How I’m Feeling…

Like I said before, I thank all the gods that be that I’m not puking anymore. First trimester morning sickness is pure torture and I’m grateful I’m able to function at more than what felt like 20% for the fist 2 months. Although I’m able to eat more, I still feel uncomfortably full after eating a small meal. I’m also super tired. I blame chasing an active toddler and the parasite I’m hosting. I nap when my toddler naps and try to get in some afternoon snoozes on the weekends when my husband can watch her for a while.

5. Looking Forward To…

Our 20 week ultrasound coming up at the end of this month. Looking forward to seeing how the baby is growing and how everything is forming. I’m also looking forward to feeling him kick soon. I’ve been told that second time moms can feel their baby kick sooner because they know what it can feel like versus first time moms. Hopefully he’ll let me know he’s in there soon! 

6. Scared About…

The unknown of having a boy. It’s a real uncertainty you guys. I worry about all of it- how to raise a boy, what kind of mother I’ll be to two little ones, will Olivia be as close to a brother as I am to my sisters, will they be able to share a room OK, or will it be weird- all that. I also wonder how I’m going to be able to make it my new normal of raising two kids. I know people do it all the time, but it’s a new thing for me. If you’ve got insight or tips, please leave it in the comments section! 

7. Things I’ve Learned…

Pregnancy is not good on me. They say every pregnancy is different, but my body has shown twice that growing a baby doesn’t agree with me. The morning sickness, full feeling, acid reflux and exhaustion is part of the deal, and I’m grateful I’m able to conceive and have babies, but it’s hard on my body. 

Boy, Oh Boy!

We always knew we wanted to give Olivia a sibling. My sisters and I are best friends, so how could we not give our little one that opportunity? Justin has a sister, my dad has a sister and my mom has 2 other siblings. So when Justin and I talked about bringing another little one into this world to be a partner in this one-of-a-kind family of ours, it wasn’t even a question.

Enter procrastination.

We didn’t know the age difference we wanted them to be, and when people would ask us when we’re going to have another one, our response was always “eventually, but not now”.

Enter the now.

It’s almost as if God gave us the push we would never give ourselves. Like the universe told us “ok, I know you want this, and you aren’t getting any younger, and you obviously aren’t there yet, so let me help”. And BOOM! Positive pregnancy test.

And with modern medical technology, and my history of a not-so-awesome pregnancy and “advanced maternal age”, we were able to determine the sex of our little gummy bear (or as I would like to call it, the parasite that is trying to kill me in the first trimester). We are happy to announce that we are having a BOY!

Yep, a boy. Justin is beyond stoked, and I’m a little nervous of having a different gender when all I know is the life of girls. So far everything has checked out as normal and at 14 weeks (or as I like to call- magic week), I’m able to eat again (YES). Come this June, Olivia will be a big sister!

Our little one has been such a wonderful experience that beyond exceeded my thinking of how it would be to raise a child, let alone a daughter. She’s smart, curious, active, loving and sleeps through the night, man. I love her more than my heart can take, and she’s going to be such an incredible big sister.

Here’s to our new family of 5!