What It Means to Say “I’m Busy”


In 2011 I was working full time at a job I hated, planning a wedding and finishing up my MBA. I was “busy” in the most logical of terms. With waking up at 8am to be at work by 9, leaving early and hitting rush hour traffic to get to class by 6pm and then coming home to look at flower vendor contracts, I’m surprised I even saw my now husband and fed the dog every night.

Although I remember being so busy, what I don’t remember is skipping out on the things I really wanted to do. I went to concerts, dinners, movies and made time to call my parents every once in a while.

Many times I think we get caught up in using the words “I’m busy” to really mean “I don’t want to carve out time for you”. It sounds harsh, but think about a time when you were so busy that you felt you had no life. I’m sure you still went to that dinner party that one time, or spent an hour catching up with your sister over the phone. I know I did. In our technological world it’s not even a secret anymore, because the same day you told your friend you don’t have time to talk, sure enough, someone is going to tag you in a Facebook post during “Happy Hour at Bob’s Wine Dive”.

My sisters are two of the busiest people I know, but when we all lived in Dallas, we made time for our weekly Monday “sister night” to catch up and have dinner.

I read an interesting article on Slate.com about busyness being a virtue. That saying you’re busy makes it look like you’ve got so much going on, when in reality people aren’t as busy as they think they are. Makes sense right? If I was truly as busy as I told people I was in 2011, I wouldn’t have slept, ate, pet the dog or said hi to Justin that year, and that for sure didn’t happen.

So think about what the implication is the next time you tell people “I’m busy”. If it’s to someone important, make time. If not, well, I guess you have your answer.

friday’s fab five {11.21.14}

The fab five is posted every Friday to end the week on a happy note and features items on my radar that I’m loving right now. Who knows, you might find something that could be on your fab five list!

What are you up to this weekend? Justin and I are having dinner with a friend at her new house and I’m thinking of fun desserts to try out to bring (this like one or this one). It’s been rainy in SF so I’m avoiding going out as much as possible (so I guess ever living in Seattle is out right?).

Here’s this week’s fab five:

1. “Whatever I’m Late Anyways” Watch $39


image via etsy

I know some of you out there really hate it when people are late. I get it, I really do. If you are a friend then I will do my best to be sensitive to that and be as close to on time as possible. However, I’m usually late, so this watch makes me laugh. Anyone else?

2. Recipe of the week: Atole de Calabaza (pumpkin atole)


image via The Other Side of the Tortilla

Atole is a Mexican drink made with milk, corn flour and flavoring (in this case, pumpkin, but there is also strawberry and vanilla among others). It’s served hot and delicious. I’ve been LOVING the blog The Other Side of the Tortilla from LA based Maura Hernandez as her recipes take me back to my mom and grandmother’s cooking. I want to make this during Thanksgiving break (here are some other recipes for the holiday). Yum!

3. Jimmy Kimmel Fake Ultrasound Prank

Ah this made me laugh so much! For those that have never been to a sonogram, you really don’t know what to expect. This prank was awesome and totally worth watching.

4. Tech Caddy Table $300


image via etsy

This table is perfect for those with a lot of technology and not a lot of space (basically anyone living in San Francisco). With enough room for a computer, phone, chargers and even cupholders for the occasional beverage, you won’t want to leave.

5. Song Pick: Foo Fighters “Something from Nothing”

We’ve been watching Sonic Highways on HBO that documents the locations that inspired the songs on their new album. I really like Foo Fighters, and lucky for me (and all their other fans), they are going on tour next year (check Ticketmaster for tix)!

That’s it for me, have a great weekend everyone!

baby thoughts: halfway through


I can’t believe I’m halfway through this pregnancy thing. Although not the smoothest pregnancy and isn’t showing signs of getting better (although it’s also not showing signs of getting worse which I am immensely grateful for), it has been cool to listen to her heart beat whenever we want, which was made possible by a family friend who let us borrow her fetal doppler :)

I have been a little dissapointed with these supposed “pregnancy cravings”, which I really haven’t had yet. I think my love for cesar salad and kettle chips were because my body didn’t go into complete freak-out mode when I had them. I’m also finding that as more time goes by, those foods I “crave” slowly start to fade out as I try other things that my body won’t lash-out at me for (I like to imagine heavy metal music and screaming when I eat something it doesn’t like versus soft jazz and smiles when I eat something it does like).

As a creative person, I thought my cravings would be fun and super unusual, like scrambled eggs with peanut butter and maple syrup or something that sounds completely disgusting to others but the most delicious thing to me. Haven’t happened yet. Ah well, at least I’m not puking… hail to all the Gods for that.

1. How big is the baby?

I’m 23 weeks and baby is the size of a bunch of grapes (or for the dad-to-be, the size of a small baseball mitt).

2. Foods I Love…

Honest Tea Peach White Tea, cupcakes and fresh fruit. Unfortunately, no crazy cravings. The foods I like are ones that my body doesn’t have a temper tantrum over, and I appreciate that.

3. Foods I Hate…

Anything “grain-y” like oatmeal, barley, seeds or small nuts. I find the little grains get stuck in my throat and cause that stupid lump to linger. I also stay away from carbonated beverages as they tend to make my acid reflux flare up.

4. How I’m Feeling…

Every day is better, but I haven’t really felt “awesome” yet, and have doubts that I will feel completely “back to normal” until after I deliver. I am getting more excited about having a little girl and bought her first little dress and sweater the other day (shown above). With 4.5 months to go, it’s now time to start thinking about car seats, strollers, cribs, etc. etc. etc. Our work is cut out for us.